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May 152013
 

Kids Club 2013 logoIf your kids are coming or you are volunteering at Kids Club this year, you have some very important homework! So, maybe it’s not as important as reading the Parent and Volunteer Devotional to prepare your hearts for the week. But, this homework should be pretty high up on your Kids Club priority list, ok?

You and your kids must watch last year’s Jimmy and Gergu (they are our skit characters) video before coming. Want to know why? I’ll tell you a little secret. They are returning this year! But, in order to understand and appreciate the nuances of this year’s story, you need to understand the depth of their character, the breadth of their story, and the love of Kids Club in their hearts. Ok, that’s probably a bit dramatic but you get my point.

P.S. Our kids’ teams are now all filled up for this year’s Kids Club. But, we still need a lot of volunteers, so if you haven’t signed up as one yet you can learn more and sign up here.

Here is your homework–last year’s opening video…

And, if you’re an ambitious learner, take a moment to watch last year’s recap video and think about all the fun we’re going to have this year!

Apr 272013
 

Not only is Thoughts to Make Your Heart Sing by Sally Lloyd-Jones something kids of a wide age range can enjoy, but it’s something that stirs my own heart every time I read it. In fact, I’ve been reading one each morning before most of the kids are up. It’s a quick and beautiful reminder of a truth about God and what that means for my life.

I wanted to share the one I read to my preschool daughter this morning called “On Purpose”. What if we each lived our days with this truth in our hearts? And what if our kids–perhaps especially our daughters in this beauty-obsessed culture–grow up living out a truth like this?

ON PURPOSE

by Sally Llloyd-Jones

Did you just end up here on earth? Was it all by accident?

The Bible says it wasn’t a mistake or an accident. It was a plan.

You didn’t just end up here. God put you here on purpose.

God wanted you here, and he had to have you here right now. Because he has a wonderful plan for you–something that only you can do.

Every single thing about you–the color of your eyes, your name, what you love, every day you will live–God knew before time began.

Even before you were born, he loved you. You began in God’s heart.

You are his. Made by him. Made for him.

“You saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me…before I was one day old.”

PSALM 139:16 (NCV)

Here is the trailer video that will give you an idea of what to expect if you order this delightful devotional. The art work makes my heart sing as much as the words do.

Mar 232013
 

helping the homeless

I don’t know about you, but I never quite know what to do when I see a homeless person at an intersection. I usually avert my eyes and feel slightly guilty (and partly skeptical) if I’m honest. That’s why I love this post by my friend, Polly. And, I can’t wait to do this simple project with my kids.

The following guest post is by Polly…

Homeless in Flint

I once had coffee with a homeless man.

It wasn’t planned or anything. It just happened when he sat uncomfortably close to me at a Starbucks in Chicago. Here I was sitting in Starbucks with my caramel mocha, Bible open having a quiet time, belly full from breakfast and blatantly ignoring the homeless man right next to me. After a mental battle of how to respond to his invasion of my bubble, I figured Jesus wouldn’t ignore this man so I shouldn’t either. I looked up, asked him his name, and started talking to him.

Two hours later we parted ways. I left that conversation with an entirely new perspective of the homeless. This was years ago but two things have really stuck with me:

1) One of the hardest things about being homeless and on the streets is not being acknowledged. As someone in need, it is worse when people simply ignore you and pretend you don’t exist rather than simply being blatantly rejected. He told me he’d rather someone make eye contact and reject his request for money or food than to simply pretend he doesn’t exist.

2) When I asked him what were the most helpful things someone could GIVE him he told me: 1) A night in a hotel. It gives a person a chance to shower, shave, sleep in a bed, and feel like a human. 2) Water and socks. Water made sense to me but socks? When I asked him to explain he told me how a lot of his time is spent walking. If he doesn’t have socks or they are worn down too thin, he would get blisters quickly. Not good for a person dependent on walking with no first aid kit.

Fast forward five years.

I am driving my warm minivan away from the mall on a very cold evening. I pull up to a stoplight and find myself practically face to face with a cold man standing on the corner with a sad sign asking for food. My mind is driven back to my morning with my homeless friend, and I am struck at what little I have actually done since that conversation.

I’m fully aware that I can’t fix the problem of homelessness, but I shouldn’t allow the feeling of helplessness to keep me from doing something, anything for the people I come in contact with.

This is where the idea hits me: what if I were to always keep a bag of goodies in my car specifically ready to hand out to homeless?

So, instead of just thinking about the idea and talking about it, I DID it.

helping the homeless

I went to the dollar store and $30 later, I had enough stuff to make six goodie bags for the homeless. You can be sure the bag includes socks and water too :)

Here is what I stashed this round of bags with:

helping the homeless items

  • A bottle of water
  • A pair of socks
  • Trail Mix
  • A toothbrush
  • Toothpaste
  • Ibuprofen
  • Kleenex

I made up six bags of these items and put three in my car and three in my husband’s car. One is currently underneath my seat so I can easily grab it while driving. The other two are in the back of my car so I can easily re-stash when necessary.

If you have kids, this could be an awesome way to teach about caring for the poor and thinking about what their needs may be. It would also be fun to involve them in stuffing the bags and giving them away. My daughter is too young for this right now, but I hope we are still giving our On-the-Go bags away when she’s old enough to comprehend what we are doing.

I’ve had these bags in my car for a few weeks now and had the opportunity to give one away the other day. I hope and pray it helped him in some way. If anything it communicated, “I see you. I care for you,” which according to my Starbucks friend, is one of the best things we can do for the homeless.

Mar 092013
 

This guest post is from a member of a family that is very near and dear to my heart. Meg began the blog Showers of Grace after losing her husband, a Major in the Air Force, this past fall due to an accident at work. She was left with her 1-year-old and 2-year-old at the time. Her faith in the midst of such terrible tragedy has been life-changing for me and my family to watch. Please pray for her (and her little boys) or send an encouraging comment her way on her blog, if you feel led.

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All of a sudden, you lose your job, you get deployment orders, you go into labor, you say “I do”, you get that dreaded call, you leave your home to move to a new place, you meet the man of your dreams, your doctor delivers terrible news, you file for bankruptcy, you realize your spouse is not who you thought you married, you lose someone you love. Most of us have experienced an extreme shift in life and we know that, all of a sudden, life changes; sometimes for the better, and unfortunately, sometimes for the worse.

Life is made up of moments; mostly predictable moments. But then, that dreaded all of a sudden can come knocking on your door when you least expect it. When you just want life to continue as it has been. You experience these game-changing moments and you can’t get around it. Life will bump you into some detour when you aren’t prepared. We can plan all we want. We can put our ducks in a row, cross our fingers, and hope for the best. But one day, all of a sudden, life will change.

For me, my terrible all of a sudden happened like this. And all of a sudden, my husband wasn’t on his way home from work. He wasn’t stopping to pick up that Thai take-out we planned for dinner. He wasn’t there to go to bed with me. I did not hear that all familiar high-pitched whirring of his espresso machine that next morning. No kisses or hugs to send Daddy on his way to work. Without warning, all of a sudden, he was gone. Our family of four was so instantly turned to three. How could he be taken so quickly, so without warning? Utter devastation replaced those happy, predictable moments. No, I didn’t want this all of a sudden coming into my house. But there it stood. As much as I tried to push it away, there was nothing I could do to move it. No amount of tears, prayers, or fighting can make this unavoidable reality go away.

When we find ourselves face-to-face with these all of a sudden moments, how do we get through it? How do we survive these plummeting waves of life? How can we face another day?

I look to an omnipotent God; One who can break down any and every wall we are up against.

I look to a loving God; One whose love has no bounds, we cannot grasp the height, depth, or width of His great love.

I look to an all-knowing God; One who sees the past, present, and future; who knows all things.

I look to a steadfast God; One who is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

I look to a providing God; One who promises to give us exactly what we need; who has gifted us with His Word.

And in His Word, we can see, all of a sudden:

God made a promise, perfection arrived in a tiny bundle in Bethlehem, water was turned to wine, blind eyes were opened, the lame walked, diseases were removed, five thousand bellies were miraculously filled, a man walked on water, True Love died for us, hopelessness was transformed, sins were removed, salvation was declared on Calvary, the tomb was rolled away, and grace was freely offered.

I don’t know about you, but I want to be a part of this story. I know that same power that is revealed throughout the Gospel is available to us today. His all of a suddens can easily triumph over ours. The bumps and detours of life don’t hold a candle to His mighty power.

Many people have told me I am facing one of their worst nightmares. But I can assure you, this nightmare is in the hands of an all-powerful and loving God. I know that I can stand (or lay when I need to) upon the solid rock of Christ. He does not waver. I can place my circumstance into His more than capable hands. The same hands that split seas and formed the heavens and the earth, can easily hold me, hold you, and transform our terrible all of a suddens into beautiful stories of redemption.

When you face a terrible all of a sudden in your life, I hope you find comfort in these verses, as I have:

And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called. Romans 8:28

If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Romans 8:31

Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:35-39

Feb 232013
 

You are going to leave a spiritual legacy in your child’s life. Every parent does. The question is not whether you will leave a legacy but what kind of legacy it will be. This is true because God has designed you to be the primary spiritual leader in your kids’ lives. Crossing Kids’ Legacy Series is intended to help you understand the role God’s given you, as well as equip and resource you in your task.

Our most recent event was a Legacy Lunch and the topic was “How Good Parents Ruin Their Kids.” Keith Simon led a discussion of the article “How to Land Your Kid in Therapy” and looked at what the Bible says should be our goal in parenting. We also heard perspectives and practical ideas on this topic from a panel of parents who have adult children. If you or a spouse weren’t able to make it, you can listen to Keith’s talk and the advice from our panel of parents via our Podcast. Here is the link.

We have quite a few more Legacy Seminars lined up for you this spring. You can check our webpage for the upcoming events as they become available to sign up for. Below are just some of the events you’ll hear advertised in the coming weeks and months, so you can mark your calendars now.

You can download this flier with all the events by clicking on this link: Crossing Kids Legacy Seminars (Spring 2013).

Feb 092013
 

As a mom with three small kids, I often wish that the words that come out of my mouth could promptly be put back into the ugly place they came from. The only way I’ve found to fight my tendency to be impatient with my family is to begin my day in God’s Word and by asking him for help.

The prayer below is something I’ve returned to for years now.  It’s from The Valley of Vision: A Collection of Puritan Prayers and Devotions or from this website that has some of those Puritan prayers listed.  My favorite line has to be, “May I speak each word as if my last word, and walk each step as my final one. If my life should end today, let this be my best day.”

I invite you to make this your prayer, too, as you begin your parenting day…

Morning Dedication

Almighty God, as I cross the threshold of this day I commit myself, soul, body, affairs, friends, to Thy care. Watch over, keep, guide, direct, sanctify, bless me. Incline my heart to thy ways. Mould me wholly into the image of Jesus, as a potter forms clay. May my lips be a well-tuned harp to sound Thy praise. Let those around see me living by Thy Spirit, trampling the world underfoot, unconformed to lying vanities, transformed by a renewed mind, clad in the entire armour of God, shining as a never-dimmed light, showing holiness in all my doings.  Let no evil this day soil my thoughts, words, hands. May I travel miry paths with a life pure from spot or stain. In needful transactions let my affection be in heaven, and my love soar upwards in flames of fire, my gaze fixed on unseen things, my eyes open to the emptiness, fragility, mockery of earth and its vanities. May I view all things in the mirror of eternity, waiting for the coming of my Lord, listening for the last trumpet call, hastening unto the new heaven and earth. Order this day all my communications according to Thy wisdom, and to the gain of mutual good. Forbid that I should not be profited or made profitable. May I speak each word as if my last word, and walk each step as my final one. If my life should end today, let this be my best day.

Jan 262013
 

Almost 100% of the books I read and end up liking are those recommended by others I know or bloggers I follow. So, I thought I might share a few with you that I am currently reading or intend to read this new year…all of which were recommended by people I trust.

Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! – I’ve mentioned before that I struggle with impatience when it comes to parenting. I just started this book and am smitten. It’s chalk full of heart-targeted, practical ways to deal with the parenting issues (think lack of self-control, irresponsibility, bad attitudes, etc) we face that cause anger in parents. And, it helps parents deal rightly with their own hearts. So. excited. about. this. read.

Fit to Burst : Abundance Mayhem, & the Joys of Motherhood - Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches, Rachel Jankovich’s first book, rocked my mothering-of-little-ones world as I share in this post. This week, I started this newest release and am already drinking from a fire hydrant, so to speak. I cannot wait to hear what this mother of six children who is full of wisdom and mirth has to say in the rest of this short mothering manifesto.

Artificial Maturity: Helping Kids Meet the Challenge of Becoming Authentic Adults – This book comes highly recommended by my boss, mentor, and friend who has four teenage/elementary kids–yours truly, the one and only, Christine Simon.

Ten Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Child – The description says that this book “confronts contemporary trends in parenting and schooling by reclaiming lost traditions. This practical, insightful book is essential reading for any parent who cares about the paltry thing that childhood has become, and who wants to give a child something beyond the dull drone of today’s culture.”

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God - I already started this book with our small group Bible study, but I am looking forward to finishing it in the new year. So far, it’s been the best book on marriage I’ve ever read. I wish every single person could read it before getting married, actually.

What’s on your list to read in 2013?

Dec 202012
 

Hey friends! Remember Gergu from Bolskavia?

You know, he was Jimmy’s #1 Fan at Kids Club this past summer. Here’s a video that might jog your memory about our good foreign-exchange friend, Gergu.

Anyway, he is a swell Bolskavian guy and sent all of us Christmas Greetings via a video! Are you ready?

By the way, if you’re wondering when you might get to meet Gergu again, Kids Club will be June 3-7. Get ready for pirates at Treasure Island! (Shhh, you didn’t hear that from me. This insider Kids Club news is off the official record.)

Be sure to LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW and let Gergu know how much we miss him!

Nov 242012
 

Your family is invited to…

Our event is geared toward families with kids ages 3 through 5th grade, but the whole family is welcome to come.

Here are 10 reasons you might want to come…

1 . I don’t know about you, but my young kids are already brainwashed by TV shows and commercials representing the “magic of Christmas” and all that we NEED to buy and/or receive. It’s a cold hard Christmas fact in our culture that Jesus is “out” and buying and getting stuff “in”. The Family Christmas Celebration, however, is about helping your family re-discover and celebrate the real “magic of Christmas” and our true need–a long-awaited Savior who came as a baby.

2. A contest involving animal masks, noises, and yours truly on stage. Yeah, we’re crazy like that. (Seriously, I think this is going to be hilarious.)

3. It’s an easy event to invite friends to who don’t go to church. Our goal is to make it something that anyone can enjoy.

4. Claire Novak (a.k.a. Wacky Wanda and other hilariously famous skit characters from Kids Club) is doing a dramatic reading of Song of the Stars by Sally Lloyd-Jones. If you don’t know Claire, she’s brilliant on stage.

5. We’ll join in singing with all of “heaven and nature” as Scott Johnson, Candace Lawhon, and the worship team lead us in some of our favorite Christmas songs.

6. A few brief hands-on games/activities and then some yummy food. (Don’t forget to bring along a delish finger-food snack to share please.)

7. Time for you to sit by, sing with, talk to, and play with your child.

8. Time for your child to sit by, sing with, talk to, and play with you.

9. We’ve purchased a hard back book of Song of the Stars for each family who attends! This is one book you’ll come back to year after year with your family.

10. Along with the book, we’re sending you home with a Family Devotional full of easy discussion questions and activities that will help you countdown the days to Christmas. You’ll take 5-10 minutes a day to read parts of Song of the Stars or the Bible, as you prepare your hearts for the coming King.

We hope you’ll come to the Family Christmas Celebration on Wednesday, December 5 and bring friends! But, we need to know you’re coming to plan for enough supplies. Be sure to sign up at our table in the foyer on Sundays or online here through December 2.

Nov 102012
 

3 Questions to Ask a Child Who Has Done Wrong

Proverbs 6:23 says, “Correction and instruction are the way to life….”

Did you know that spending time correcting our children the right way doesn’t just lead to the shallow, short-term effects of behavior modification? It actually leads to LIFE, according to the Bible. The kind of soul-satisfying, abundant life that God intends for them. Do you believe that? I know I do…but easier said than done, right?

Recently, I had a chance to attend a heart-based parenting conference put on by the National Center for Biblical Parenting that had some practical suggestions for how to correct children. The focus is on building a child’s character and not just “whipping the kid into shape.” Below I’ve synthesized some of the most helpful material I heard and am putting into practice around our house.

First, as parents, we need a plan for correction. The three heart-targeted questions below will help parents and caretakers correct children in a way that is more than just behavior modification. These questions get to the core issues in a child’s heart and prepare him/her to deal with sin rightly before God and others for a lifetime.

Secondly, we must allow time for correction. It takes time to have conversations, and we must make space in our day for this by not packing our schedules. How hard is this for American families? When we have to rush from one thing to the next, it’s hard to have substantive conversations that can produce the fruit in a child’s life that God wants for them.

Lastly, we need to deal with each child separately, if there is more than one involved in the offense. Each child usually has a part in a conflict, even if they are only 10% to blame. Remind each child that “how you respond is your own responsibility.”

As part of the correction plan, the speakers at the conference suggested asking three heart-targeted questions to kids when they do wrong. I’ve found these to be very helpful!

3 Questions to Ask a Child Who Has Done Wrong

1 – What did you do wrong?

  • Help child identify his part in the offense and have him say it.
  • This act of saying the wrong teaches him the biblical act of confession.
  • Send back into “break time” to think about what happened until he/she is ready to talk.

2 – Why was that wrong?

  • Note the question is NOT: “Why did you do it?” That question allows kids to shift blame.
  • This question gives a chance to discuss the heart issue (i.e. selfishness, disobedience, etc) behind the behavior.
  • Provides an opportunity for teaching about what God says is wrong about it.
  • Wise Words for Moms by Ginger Plowman is a resource I use that’s full of ideas of Bible verses or more questions dealing with specific sins kids struggle with.

3 – What are you going to do differently next time?

  • Help your child think of practical ways to deal rightly with the situation next time.
  • Remind the child to ask for forgiveness from those he/she offended.

End the correction time with forgiveness and affirmation.

  • Pray together, asking God for forgiveness and help.
  • Remind child of God’s forgiveness and perhaps share 1 John 1:9 (or the idea behind it), “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
  • Affirm (and hug!) your child before leaving the time together. Some ideas of phrases to say:
    • “I love you and you are forgiven.”
    • “Time for a new start now!”
    • “Go try again. I know you can do what we talked about.”

Imagine the life-long impact we can have on the little hearts that God has entrusted to us if we take the time to have a conversation like the one above regularly. I’ll be praying for each parent or caretaker who reads this post, as you strive to deal with correction in a heart-targeted way. May God bless you as you lead your child to the way of LIFE.

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